By Pauletta Andreas:: Staff Blogger
In the 2011 faith-based film, "Jumping The Broom," Sabrina Watson (Paula Patton) made a vow to keep her cookies in the jar until marriage. That was refreshing to see, but it is not the norm.
A recent article published in Relevant Magazine titled, “3 Lies Entertainment Tells Us About Sex” says, “The expectations of what sex is supposed to look like and sound like are established in our society by way of the entertainment industry.”
This is very true.
These days, modern society has made sexual intimacy a casual, fun and commitment-less act teens and adults of every age should totally get into.
The argument is essentially, I mean, like, everybody’s doing it, right?
Who wants to be the odd one out?
If you watch romantic movies and television programs on the edgier side, sex is definitely the end goal. Everything is leading up to the big moment.
Andrew Byers, the writer of the Relevant Magazine article says, on screen, “Sex is an ending, not a beginning.”
He further clarifies, “Sex becomes the goal of romance, or, put differently, romance is incomplete until the clothes start flying.”
Sad, but true.
Whether the movie shows a full-on sex scene, plus nudity, or only hints at it by showing an adorable couple waking up in bed together the next day...either way, we get the picture.
But that picture has teens and adults who are heavily influenced by culture assuming that if they don’t get it on between the sheets, their romantic life is incomplete. As a result, they long to be touched, caressed, embraced and stimulated in a way that is reserved for married couples.
But we need to snap out of it. Everyone isn't having sex and what we see playing out on the big screen is contrived for entertainment purposes, not real life.
Clearly, a bit of de-programming is needed in order to break down misconceptions and get rid of misguided desires rooted in lust, not love.
Art does not imitate the Christian life, which is why saved singles have to be extra careful about what they see.
Self-censorship is as necessary as self-evaluation.
First, limit the kinds of entertainment you indulge in and second, assess how you are impacted by what you are seeing play out on screen.
Ask yourself, “Where did I get my primary ideas about sex and romance from? Did I learn from a Godly source or secular entertainment?”
Knowing who/what your teacher(s) was/is will greatly help you know for sure whether those ideas are wholesome to live by or not.
It's time evaluate your greatest influences. Do you know what they are?
To learn how to better value yourself, uphold your standards and resist sexual compromise, get your copy of Dianna Hobbs' best-selling book The New A-list: Abstinence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder, now available on Amazon.com, BarnesandNoble.com, and Booksamllion.com.
Yes so tru. You have fornication and not knowing the one they claim to know. A relationship begins with a relationship and intimacy is knowing the other person how can you know someone you dont even know
Posted by: a | 05/08/2014 at 03:48 PM