Some Attractions Are Distractions

Article By Dianna Hobbs:: The New A-list author

"Ooh, Dianna, he (or she) is so fine. I have the biggest crush on them!"

I hear that a lot from singles infatuated with someone who weakens them, like Kryptonite does Superman.

So let's treat "Crush" as if it were only a soda you drink, not reason enough to pursue a relationship. That superficial stuff can lead to trouble.

Sometimes, attractions are nothing more than distractions.

An individual can have great surface-level qualities and be all wrong for you. As you know, great eyes, teeth, hair, legs, or whatever grabs your attention, is not an indicator of the condition of someone's character.

That is not to say attractiveness doesn't matter at all in relationships, but it can't be all you think about to the point where you're blinded by it.

For those who are serious about going beyond simply gratifying their flesh momentarily (I believe you are one of those people.) they go deeper than the exterior.

The abstinent lifestyle takes focus and determination. So the person you give your earnest attention to needs to share your same values. That is most important.

You're on a mission, not to find "America's Next Top Model" so to speak, but to unite with someone who models Christlike character.

You want an individual who lives out biblcial convictions.

Those who are interested in pleasing their flesh, particularly when they seriously appeal to yours, can easily lead you down the wrong path. So you have to have a no-compromise stance when it comes to dating, which cannot change based on the external.

I believe you are reading this purity blog because you are focused on pleasing the Lord and letting Him position you for your soul mate. You don't want to dibble and dabble in premarital loving and risk missing out on destiny.

And you don't have to.

The way you stay on course is to minimize the emphasis you place on the physical and tap into the spiritual realm.

In other words, you need God's guidance to steer you toward the right relationship and help you opt out of the wrong ones.

Everybody is not worthy of your time. Everyone is not ordained to be in your space. Everybody cannot even be your confidante or a shoulder for you to lean on. Everyone is not a destiny connection.

They may look good on the outside, but be the wrong choice for you.

I'm reminded of 1 Samuel 16:7 where the prophet Samuel was seeking to anoint someone King, who would ultimately be Saul's replacement.

When the man of God saw Eliab, the Lord said, "Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart."

David was God's choice, even though he didn't look like it on the outside.

So I want you to take that scripture and regard it as a compass to direct you along your journey. The next time you see someone that makes you look twice, before you get your emotions and feelings involved, hear the voice of the Lord saying, "Do not consider his appearance or height."

Again, that is not to say that attractiveness doesn't matter, but it cannot be the "be all and end all" of everything.

Remain open to the will of the Lord and know that some people are tools of the enemy to work against your purpose.

My dear A-lister committed to the abstinent lifestyle, God wants to connect you to a mate who is like-minded. Let God do that.

I was sharing on my inspirational blog today that, I believe, for someone reading, this is your year to be divinely connected. You can sense it in your spirit. You know it to be true.

The question is, are you willing to let God lead you? At His command, will you be able to leave behind those who keep pulling you behind, even the "fine" ones?

This is not to suggest that you are shallow or only interested in looks. But there are many individuals who get baited in by attractiveness and I want you to avoid being one of them.

Attractiveness can be disarming.

Don't fall into that trap.

If you are willing to make sure your relationships are built upon biblical criteria and approved by God, this will open the gateway for the Lord to send the person with whom you are meant to be.

You have to come into agreement with His will my friend.

Will you do it?

I pray so, because that's what it takes to walk in purity.

Your Abstinence Coach,

Dianna Hobbs

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Here it is if that relationship is 'drawing' you into sin, you can bet money its not from God but satan. Why would God send you someone to cause you to sin, engage in immorality no. A man from God will lead you closer to Christ nit away from Him. If He' s leading you into sin, He is NOT for you. Its so HARD to accept but you want a man who loves God first you second and if Im leading a men into sin i do not love that man. I actually hate him because im not helping him but harming him. A wife brings no harm, if you are harming you are not that mans wife.