If you suffer from the “disease to please,” or if you tend
to be overly-accommodating, I want you to drop everything you’re doing to read
this post. Today is going to be a changing day in your life my friend. Oh yes!
You are moving from your lowly position of mediocrity and sadness, to a brand
new place of joy and fulfillment.
No longer will you be the perpetual pursuer, chasing after
happiness that’s seemingly always beyond your grasp. I’m going to teach you how
to expect more, demand more, and get more out of life. Are you ready? Let’s
jump right into it.
Change your M.O.
If you find that people often disrespect you, and devalue
what you have to offer, there’s something you need to do. You must change up
your M.O., better known as your “Mode of Operandi.” You’re operating the wrong
way. You’re sending out the wrong signals. You’re the cause of your own
problem. Don’t believe me? I’ll prove it to you.
Stop Depleting
Yourself
While you’re constantly giving, the other party doesn’t
reciprocate. Instead, they take what you’ve offered up and keep moving, leaving
you empty. You end up right at square one and the other individual is happy and
fulfilled, while you’re feeling weak and depleted. Stop doing that to yourself.
I’ve got a new strategy for you. It’s one that will help turn things around in
your life.
Turn the Tables
Flip it. What do I mean by “flip it?” That means turn the
tables. Rather than begging and being needy, become bold and self-sufficient.
First, tell yourself that, “If they don’t want to be who and what I need,
that’s fine. I don’t gain my sense of worth and value from them anyway.” I told
you before, only God is your source. Trust in Him. Put your confidence in the
Lord.
Alter your Behavior
Then, after you get your mind right change your behavior.
You see, your actions are a natural outgrowth of your mentality. Once you
realize who you are, you’ll begin strutting like it, talking like it, and
acting like it. You will no longer be that “human doormat” always allowing
others to walk on you.
Preserve your Pride
Protect your pride and integrity. When you get serious about
doing this, you won’t let people treat you any kind of way. You will have a
renewed self-respect as never before. Are you ready for that? It’s not hard to
switch it up on folks. It’s all a matter of making the decision to do so.
And it’s not a decision made out of bitterness, anger, or
hurt. Instead, it is a wise decision borne out of wisdom, common sense, and
good judgment. You have to protect your heart. No one else will. You have to
preserve your soul, your feelings, and your emotions. Nobody else can do that
for you. It begins with you.
Take it Back
Whether you’re in business or in relationships, learn to
stand your ground. Don’t let folks have their way with you. Have some dignity.
Rebuke that spirit of low self-esteem and compromise. Take your power back.
Take the control back. Take your joy back. Take authority back. It’s yours.
I want to leave you with this thought: When you give away
what’s valuable for free, it ends up costing you dearly in the end. If the
relationship isn’t reciprocal, if you’re not receiving what you need, or the
respect you deserve, disengage. When you do, you’ll see people, situations, and
life from a clearer perspective.
What’s more, you’ll give your confidence a major boost.
Until next time . . . may you be empowered to prosper!
Dianna Hobbs
