We often pray for peace, but we don't want to deal with the solitude. Isn't that interesting? We say we want the Lord to "clear our space," but when he begins removing select people and things from around us, we start fretting. We feel abandoned, lonely, and dejected.
You just might be viewing the separation the wrong way. Have you considered that perhaps you're better off without them? Could it be that, instead of sinking into depression, you should be rejoicing over the blessing?
I'm not suggesting that every rift in a relationship is "grounds for separation" so to speak. That isn't always true. There are times when two people just don't see eye-to-eye. It's not the end of the world. They simply need to work on communicating until they find a mutual resolution.
There are some relationships, however, that aren't worth saving. Some folks keep up drama in your life and they're on a completely different path than you. They don't have any godly counsel to give, and they aren't exhibiting any qualities you should be aspiring to emulate.
In these cases, letting go is quite often the best thing to do.
Even in light of that, it's not always easy to release people. Ironically, choosing between "drama" and "peace" can prove difficult--especially when the drama is attached to someone you've grown fond of. Once you're attached to them, you get used to having them around. You miss their company when they're absent. You develop a need for them, albeit an unhealthy one.
Past conversations, experiences, and poignant memories permeate your psyche; over time they have become a part of you. No matter how toxic the relationship, or how unhealthy the friendship, part of you wants to hold on.
But listen, God is starting your life over. He's restructuring your circle. Don't be afraid of the abrupt changes. Don't be shocked when people begin dropping off the scene. Instead of thinking about who or what you're losing, concentrate on all that you're gaining from the separation and departure.
You get your peace back. You get your space back. You get your joy back. You get your time back. You get your relationship with God back to the place it needs to be. Not only that-- you snatch your identity back, because you finally realize that you don't need them to stand on your own two feet. You're strong, wise, and resilient enough to move forward with your head held high.
So, say goodbye. And do it with a smile.
Until next time... may you be empowered to prosper!
Dianna Hobbs
