How many times have you found yourself fixating on other people's perceptions of you? Think about it. You're bound to come up with at least a few instances when you allowed other people's opinions to guide your actions.
Although we can all relate to this, surely, that doesn't make it healthy or right.
You see, the problem is this; whenever you subvert "the real you", in order to mold other folks' ideas about your character and personality, you cease to be true to yourself. You end up living for them and not for you. Even though you may be able to survive this way for a while, eventually, you'll feel frustrated and unfulfilled.
You'll get caught up trying to hide your true self, for fear of anyone finding out what's really behind that facade. We feel like we can't let them see what's underneath the mask. You know why? Because deep down inside we're afraid that if anyone got to know us, without all of the pretenses, they wouldn't like what they saw.
We think they couldn't possibly love and accept the pure essence of who we are, which is quite different from what we purport to be. Not that who we are is a bad thing, but it's simply not what others may perceive us to be.
So, what do we do? We continue to put on the false face, whatever that may be.
Perhaps, you're too afraid to show how intelligent you really are. Maybe you're reluctant to reveal your confidence. I know some people who simply won't go outside without make-up because they think they're too ugly. While that may seem trivial and insignificant to you, it's very real to that person.
Consider yourself for a moment. What is/are your hang up(s)? In truth, no one truly knows but you and God. Others may have an idea of what goes on in your mind; no one has the full picture.
Here's the point I want you to get. You don't have to let just any old body infiltrate your life. No, that would not be wise! However, you must be true to yourself, without worrying about whether others will accept the real you or not. That can't be your focus. Instead, concentrate on the fact that you are valuable to God and He loves you more than you know.
You're highly favored, and whether folks approve of you or not, they can't do anything to snatch the favor of God away from you. No matter what people say, think, or do, they can never take your dignity UNLESS YOU GIVE IT AWAY!
I admonish you to be bold, be confident, and be courageous. Embrace the real you-- all of you, and don't look back.
Until next time... may you be empowered to prosper!
Dianna Hobbs
