There's something on my mind today... so please, indulge me for a couple of minutes. I think every person can relate to what I'm going to talk about in one way or another. I'll begin with a question. Have you ever met anyone you were diametrically opposed to? In other words, you could never see eye-to-eye with this person. No matter how much explaining, compromising, or listening you did, it was never enough. You frustrated yourself endlessly trying to be whatever they wanted you to be, just so they would accept you.
Wasn't it difficult to be met with rejection over and over again no matter how hard you tried? It was so tough because, you really wanted the relationship to work. You really cared about them, but they couldn't accept you for who you were--neither did they share your philosophy of love and life.
You tried to fit into their mold, but it was never good enough. You tried to be more accommodating, more forgiving.... more, more, more. But it was all in vain.
If you can relate to what I'm saying I want to share something very enlightening with you; here it is. Just because you love and care for a person does not mean you can peacefully coexist with them. Some individuals will never adopt your views, agree with your stance, or validate you in any way. They don't think like you at all. They are the exact opposite of you.
This doesn't mean they're necessarily "bad", although in some cases they are. However, it does mean that you will never be able to carry on a productive relationship with them. And that has to be okay with you.
Whether it is a romantic, familial, or platonic relationship, you have to be willing to face the truth. Everyone doesn't have what you need. In fact, some people are just the opposite of what you need. And if you're not careful you'll find yourself bending over backward to give more of yourself to someone who isn't willing to reciprocate.
Before I go let me say this. Make up in your mind that you're no longer willing to settle for lopsided relationships. God desires for you to be fulfilled. If someone refuses to love and appreciate you for who you are ask God to give you the strength to move on. The sooner you accept the truth, the sooner God can replace the counterfeit with the real thing.
Until next time... may you be empowered to prosper!
Dianna Hobbs
